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Spirituality
I would say that my faith helped. I’m not particularly religious person but I do believe in God. That has helped me a lot in the aftermath of Cameron’s death. I definitely believe in an afterlife. I don’t know what it looks like but I believe that Cameron’s spirit lives on, continues, and is accessible to me in an intangible way that I can’t even describe. She is watching over her sisters and that is tremendously helpful to me. -Mother When I moved back to North Carolina the minister from the church I grew up in was providing counseling- more like life coaching. Because I had grown up with him, I had similar beliefs as him. I started to work with him and that was a Godsend. He was not trying to figure out my grief but was trying to figure out me and my approach to grieving. He tried to understand my personality and why I had these thought processes. That was incredibly helpful. Unfortunately I didn’t find that until 8 months after she had died, because it would have been helpful sooner. -Mother I would say that we are very strong and active Christians. When you look at the original diagnosis you deal with an array of spiritual questions. You either give up on God and your faith or it affirms it. It is difficult to have a middle ground. You’re either going to get very angry with God and ignore Him, or you’re going to run to Him, which is what we did. I don’t understand how God comes closer when you’re in more pain but He does. -Father Do You Believe in God Any Less Now? I had people asking me about my faith. “Do you believe in God less now?” “Are you angry at God?” I couldn’t see it that way at all. No, God has gotten me through this and life is still good. -Mother Bad Things Happen to Good People I believe bad things happen to good people. How I came to appreciate and process Carrie’s death was to recognize that her soul existed before her body and that she knew her life was going to be short and that was ok with her. She knew that ahead of time and she chose it. She volunteered. She was ok with dying and going back to heaven and being with us for a short time and bringing us the happiness that she could while she was here. -Mother For me my faith was paramount. It really helped me throughout the process. I felt like by praying I was getting strength to endure the trial. Unfortunately, babies get sick and they die in the world we live in, so my faith provided me a huge amount of strength. Also, members from my congregation came and were very, very helpful.
God gave us life and he gave us death too. It is life and death, and we have to accept these things. We believe in God. We believe that after our time here, there is another life, and it’s not like this life, it’s something we don’t know. We believe that babies are angels in Heaven. We believe that God will reward the parents after this death, will reward them in Heaven, because they suffered.
-Mother In the Holy Book (Qur'an), the name of a door in Paradise is called Patience. That means we have to stick through… we have to be strong, even if something bad happened to you. It’s okay, just let it go, because God will give us a reward for that. That gives us strength. -Mother
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